When people pass through hard times then they can be consoled by their friends but when the hard times are 'coz of friends then it is indeed the greatest pain one has to live with.
An unfulfilled journey,
A broken promise,
Pain-filled thoughts
A sunken heart,
unsympathetic Friends.
Sunday, 13 July 2008
Friday, 4 July 2008
What is friendship ?
I was once asked to define Friendship and I couldn’t explain it at that moment.
On contemplating the definition for friendship I could think of many, rather I experienced many and it was by itself a greater feeling. I believe it is far beyond monetary values with a greater amount of emotional investment, and it might be anticipated as an obligation at times but differing perceptions are obvious. Obligation also means a sense of responsibility and the very same should be trusted with confidence; as there is no methodology to prove one’s happiness that arises being associated with a person one is affectionate about.
I perceive friendship as clearly a deep awareness of our friend’s position and being part of it, which is empathy and definitely not sympathy, an approach to share just the pain. I guess the meaning is clearly distinguishable.
On contemplating the definition for friendship I could think of many, rather I experienced many and it was by itself a greater feeling. I believe it is far beyond monetary values with a greater amount of emotional investment, and it might be anticipated as an obligation at times but differing perceptions are obvious. Obligation also means a sense of responsibility and the very same should be trusted with confidence; as there is no methodology to prove one’s happiness that arises being associated with a person one is affectionate about.
I perceive friendship as clearly a deep awareness of our friend’s position and being part of it, which is empathy and definitely not sympathy, an approach to share just the pain. I guess the meaning is clearly distinguishable.
Sunday, 22 June 2008
Life is unpredictable !
I came across a community in orkut which read 'firaaz...we miss u' and it obviously caught my attention. I was shocked to see a pic of a young guy, of my age, and the expected message about his sudden desmise ! It was when I realized that life is so unpredictable and a proof in hand !
There was also a link to his orkut profile. I was taken aback when I saw his friends still scrap him like he was with them ! Some scrapped about how much they miss him, some say what they did and how much they missed him during that act/event, some even invited him to weddings and partys. It was such a great feeling to see such friends.
It's been almost a year since his demise but I see his scrap being texted even today ! We are born, we live and we die but few leave their imprints and not just Firaaz but I have seen so many such people who leave a mark before they depart ! All these linger in our heart like sweet memories forever ! The good times are so deeply etched that we do not accept the reality and continue to believe the presence of our dear ones.
I couldn't sleep the whole night contemplating the truth of life ! This has taught me two important lessons; No matter how well we prepare for the future, the future is unseen and cannot be foretold ,and even one kind gesture of ours would linger in the hearts of many & we live in their thoughts,actions,feelings... forever even after parting away !
There was also a link to his orkut profile. I was taken aback when I saw his friends still scrap him like he was with them ! Some scrapped about how much they miss him, some say what they did and how much they missed him during that act/event, some even invited him to weddings and partys. It was such a great feeling to see such friends.
It's been almost a year since his demise but I see his scrap being texted even today ! We are born, we live and we die but few leave their imprints and not just Firaaz but I have seen so many such people who leave a mark before they depart ! All these linger in our heart like sweet memories forever ! The good times are so deeply etched that we do not accept the reality and continue to believe the presence of our dear ones.
I couldn't sleep the whole night contemplating the truth of life ! This has taught me two important lessons; No matter how well we prepare for the future, the future is unseen and cannot be foretold ,and even one kind gesture of ours would linger in the hearts of many & we live in their thoughts,actions,feelings... forever even after parting away !
Thursday, 19 June 2008
Thursday, 12 June 2008
Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart
Yes, this is very true in my case right now. I moved to the dorms not just to find solace but also to make friends. It was such a relief when I found some really good guys as my dorm-mates. Things were perfect until the day before yesterday.
I'm an early sleeper and I always want to sleep early and get up early as thats how I was tuned growing up ! But my dorm is very peculiar; people here sleep only early in the morning - unwated discussions, which I never wanted to be part of. Despite my repeated request my so called friends would never let me sleep; indirectly though ! The discussions would continue with laughter, commotion....and obviously won't let me sleep. I need peace to sleep. I can't sleep even with the noise of a fan ! ..
then I guess you can imagine how difficult it might have been ! and still is !
Now dear readers...tell me...Is it wrong to tell them not to shout and let me sleep ?
Some interpreted it fallaciously and how am I responsible for that ?
It's funny as well....people whom you consider as your good friends behave weird...it hurts !
'But this is Life my sweetheart'...says my soul ! :) 'True', I agree and now I say...'I dont care' :P !
I'm an early sleeper and I always want to sleep early and get up early as thats how I was tuned growing up ! But my dorm is very peculiar; people here sleep only early in the morning - unwated discussions, which I never wanted to be part of. Despite my repeated request my so called friends would never let me sleep; indirectly though ! The discussions would continue with laughter, commotion....and obviously won't let me sleep. I need peace to sleep. I can't sleep even with the noise of a fan ! ..
then I guess you can imagine how difficult it might have been ! and still is !
Now dear readers...tell me...Is it wrong to tell them not to shout and let me sleep ?
Some interpreted it fallaciously and how am I responsible for that ?
It's funny as well....people whom you consider as your good friends behave weird...it hurts !
'But this is Life my sweetheart'...says my soul ! :) 'True', I agree and now I say...'I dont care' :P !
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